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This is a sub for binary trans men. Binary trans males as a whole have not had much of a place on reddit in the past. Please respect that this is the space we have created. On the same note, we do not exist as a sub to "keep NB people out" or "gatekeep." This is merely a place specifically for those who would call themselves binary trans men.
Don't be a dick to other people based on their opinions, experiences, or characteristics. This includes transition-related decisions, politics, personal beliefs, sexuality, religion, age, or mental health. Even if they think Jabba the Hutt is the best Star Wars character, the person you're talking to is still a human being. Threatening, hostile, or harassing language will not be tolerated under any circ*mstances. If you're just going to be calling people names, take a breather and re-think, we're supposed to be mostly adults here. we can disagree and argue/discuss without the over the top name calling. Name calling never helps the argument.
Please help others avoid potentially difficult content. This is a rule that was sorely lacking on /r/ftm, to the dismay of many severely dysphoric men. If engaging in a discussion about or requesting help for dysphoria or related issues, make sure to write a heads up at the beginning of your posts (i.e. something like "CW dysphoria talk" or "Contains use of anatomical terms" or such). A good rule of thumb is "if you're in doubt, slap a warning on it to be safe."
This is not a debate subreddit. /r/FTMMen does not exist as a stage for LGBT or trans debates. This is first and foremost a place of support and community for binary trans males. While healthy discussion is encouraged, and you can post about anything related to transition/transgender experience or opinions, please remember we are not here to argue about whether or not we should allow NB people in, debate the non/existence of the gender binary in every thread, etc. etc. TERFs/gender critical, that means you as well. We are not harming or criticizing other parts of the trans community by existing.
Selfies & Pics You can post selfies and pics in the body of a text post if it's something that will spark a conversation or share something meaningful or inspiring. Things like surgery or an inspirational timeline that shows significant change over a long period of time. Maybe you completely transformed your body in the gym or got a tattoo to cover scars. Or grew a nice beard. Don't just post a pic with no context and never reply. Click here for more info.
This sub is not for dating or hookups. Posts or comments soliciting sex and relationships will be removed. Chasers GTFO!
No call out threads. If you have a problem with another users behavior, or an action of a mod, click here to message the mods. You can also report posts, comments, and block users.
Suicide and crisis management. /r/ftmmen will always and only promote suicide prevention. The sub is never going to be pro choice when it comes to suicide. That rhetoric isn't welcome here at all.
If you need help reach out. If you make a post keep in mind that no one here likely has any training, but many of us have been there so we can offer to share our experiences, advice, compassion, and commiserate.
Check out the resources listed down below. There are now text message based hotlines too. Great for those with voice dysphoria.
No posts or comments promoting hateful ideology. No content promoting hateful ideology (this includes Nazis, TERFs, incels, and any other forms of bigotry based on race, gender, trans status, sexual orientation, disability, or religion)
This subreddit is for binary FTMs. "Binary" here is defined as "not nonbinary," aka just identifying as male or a man: this subreddit is for Female to MALE trans people specifically. We make this distinction because of the lack of all-"male" FTM spaces on reddit, not because we as a subreddit have some kind of anti-nonbinary agenda. Please remember we are simply making a black and white distinction between binary and nonbinary.
Another thing to keep in mind is that being GNC (gender nonconforming) does not invalidate your status as a binary male! We all love different things. Some of us are lumberjacks, some of us like ballet, some of us really want to ride a T-Rex. It has nothing to do with our status as males.
Transition status is irrelevant. We all walk different paths and have different opportunities.
While we may all share the fact that we are binary trans men, we all come with our own set of experiences and beliefs. While you are free to express your opinion, the number one thing to remember is that people's freedom of expression includes the right to disagree with you. This doesn't mean you won't get down voted if you express an unpopular opinion.
Keep in mind that this is first and foremost a support community not a debate sub. Having the freedom to express your opinion doesn't mean you are free to harass each other. You can attack someones argument without attacking them as a person.
With very few exceptions, posts and comments will not be deleted or removed. The only posts that will be removed/deleted are those threatening harm or inciting hatred or violence.
Irrelevant or hostile threads may be locked/removed to prevent debates escalating, but if you have an issue with them being locked/removed please message the mods, we are happy to work something out.
Trans Lifeline
Trans Lifeline is by trans people for trans people.
US: 877-565-8860
Canada: 877-330-6366
Available 7am-1am PST / 9am-3am CST / 10am-4am EST. Volunteers may be available during off hours.
The Trevor Project
TrevorLifeline — available 24/7/365 at 1-866-488-7386
TrevorText — Text “START” to 678678. Standard text messaging rates apply. Available 7 Days A Week, (6am–1am ET/3am–10pm PT).
TrevorChat — Available 7 Days A Week, (6am–1am ET/3am–10pm PT).https://www.thetrevorproject.org/get-help-now/
Crisis Text Line
Crisis Text Line is free, 24/7 support for those in crisis to text with a trained Crisis Counselor.
United States - Send a message to 741741
Canada - Send a Message to 686868
United Kingdom - Send a message to 85258
You can also reach them through Facebook Messenger. Using the “Send Message” button at facebook.com/crisistextline https://www.crisistextline.org/
International help
http://suicide.org/international-suicide-hotlines.html
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